Do you think online dating is only for the young and the dumb? No
certain! Many men and women of all ages are finding the love of their
life through online dating I did it so you can too.
Oh no, single again!
When I separated from husband number three, I was 47 years old and
very afraid that she would never find a good man to love. i read all those
stories about how a woman over 40 is more likely to be hit by
lightning to marry again. It’s all nonsense. Your life is
determined by the state of your consciousness.
When you finish an unhappy chapter of your life, it means that you have
some soul searching and spiritual work to do. If you are willing
to do the work required to heal your emotional wounds and resentments,
you can write a new chapter with a very different ending. I went through
a real “Dark Night of the Soul” after my third divorce, but I had such a
a big, stubborn ego that the only way he was going to learn the lessons he
I needed to learn was to be completely humble.
I didn’t really find my own spiritual truth until I lost everything else. I take
some time, but finally I changed my life completely
all fronts: health, finances, work and relationships.
As you get older, it becomes more difficult to meet eligible men. Plus
and more people of all ages are using online dating to find their
someone special. My story should give you a lot of confidence that you
you can meet the right man for you, no matter your age or
geographic location. When you have trouble meeting the requirements
prospects in more conventional ways Online dating is certainly worth it
If anyone had a good reason to complain about how hard it was to deliver
a good man, it was me. He was over 50 years old, he lived on a very small mountain.
city where most people in my age group were married couples. Is a
community of trucks and blue jeans. The local joke is: “If you find
a guy in Big Bear who’s still single, in recovery, or on parole.”
In nearly three years of living there, I’ve met a few single men, but none
who wanted out.
find my soul mate
Two weeks after moving into the new house I bought, I met my soul
companion. It all started several months earlier, when a woman I knew
showed up at church on a sunday looking good, well dressed
piggyback boy With a sports jacket and pants, not blue jeans, wow!
“He’s not from around here, is he?” I asked him, “Where did you meet him?”
“In Internet!” She answered.
“Are you serious?” I gasped! He told me there were a lot of nice men in
our age group using online dating sites and encouraged me to try
the one they put
I put my profile and photo on the website you recommended.
and a whole new world opened up to me. Quite a few men contacted
me, and this gave me the opportunity to practice and hone my skills in
determine if it was really worth the time and trouble
Meet in person.
I was very specific about my basis
requirements on my profile and I was surprised to see how many guys
they seemed to simply ignore what they were reading. I said I didn’t want a long
distance relationship. You must live close enough geographically so that we can
they could see each other at least twice a week. I received emails from New
York, Fla., Texas. I flatly said “non-smokers”. Then I would find out in a
telephone conversation that the guy smoked! What were they thinking?
Didn’t they know how to read?
I met several good men and went out with them for a period of weeks or
months, but no one really clicked with me. That was good. It was fun
checking the website to see who contacted me, then typing and
talking to many different men. Sure, some were losers or idiots, but most
They were just decent guys who wanted to meet their special woman.
and fall in love
The whole experience restored my faith in the male of the species. I saw
that most men want someone to love as much as we do
women do. They touched my heart and strengthened my resolve to continue
Faith. I believed with all my heart that my soulmate was out there
looking for me and loving me as much as I loved him.
I read some of the success stories posted on the site and noticed that in
In many cases, the woman had made the initial contact. he fed me
the confidence to attempt my own search instead of just answering those
who contacted me. I was wondering if there might be someone interesting
lived anywhere nearby. My search turned up dozens of men who lived
within an hour by car.
Something immediately drew me to Stephen’s profile. He lived
in a nearby town right at the foot of the mountain. his face was blurry
in her photo, but she was wearing a tank top, which revealed
his muscular arms. I’m a sucker for a great pair of biceps,
so I contacted him by email. On his online dating profile he said he liked
to write poetry, so in the subject line I wrote: “Your muse awaits you.”
He was intrigued by my message. I wasn’t quite sure what a muse
was and I had to look it up in the dictionary. (A muse is someone who is
an inspiration for an artist, especially a poet). Later he told me that my
an intelligent and romantic line made his day.
We wrote to each other several times and then talked on the phone for
several weeks. He sounded pretty casual on the phone and I wasn’t
I sure wanted to meet him. However, he was persistent and
convinced me to meet him at a coffee shop called Grounds for
Enjoyment. Little did he know how prophetic it would turn out to be!
He still didn’t know what his face looked like. Oh but there was no mistake
on those biceps! I assumed that his appearance would be nothing special.
because of the blurry photo. I kept my expectations low and my mind
open, so I wouldn’t be disappointed, no matter what.
The first meeting
He was waiting outside when he pulled up in his purple Explorer. He got
he came out and walked towards me and my heart almost stopped! He was tall,
slim and very handsome, half Italian with dark hair and
eyes, aquiline nose and strong jaw. wore a black
leather jacket that immediately reminded me of my old high school
swains in New Jersey.
We greeted each other and then, impulsively, he gave me a hug. caught me
guard, but I liked it, and it was good for me to do it.
We hit it off right away. We talked for hours that first night.
Before returning to the mountain, I told him that it felt like family.
me. It reminded me a lot of my Eastern Italian family. being with
he was easy and comfortable.
We dated, got engaged, and then got married a year and three months later.
Online dating worked for me better than I could have dreamed of!
If I hadn’t done all that spiritual work before I met him, none of
this would have come to be. He is so grateful to have a woman in his life.
who enjoys being in charge. And I’m so thankful to have a man in me
life that accepts me and loves me as I am. we have been together five years
Now and every day I am grateful to have a man as good as me.
partner in life.
Great relationships are created through your awareness (as is
everything else in your life). That’s what I know to be true through me
personal experience. A great love is possible for each of us, so
do not give up! Online dating could be the perfect way to meet
your soul mate as it was for me.