My wife and I were making love one night, nothing felt right, it was stale, boring, average and very mundane. After we hurried and cleaned up, I asked him how I was doing. Well, she loved that I used my hands and tongue to caress her body, but other than that, I was a failure. She then asked me what I felt about her performance. I was a bit upset by what she said so I just exclaimed “Well to be honest it’s getting really boring!”

After a three-day fight, lousy make-up sex, and then a 3-hour conversation, we both decided to change our lifestyle so that we could improve not only our sex life but also our relationship. Let’s face it, sex brings us closer to our partner. You bond intimately and emotionally. A healthy sex life also leads to greater confidence and less stress in managing your daily affairs. When I have a big lovemaking session, I tend to wake up the next day refreshed, focused, and ready to start the day.

So what plan was put in place to save our relationship and get the passion back? Well, for starters, we stopped eating fast food, restaurants, and drinking soda cold turkey. We started going to the gym every night. We even started having sex every night. Sure we lost weight, got healthier, and had more energy for sex, but the sex was still the same as before. What were we doing wrong?

Well, after another two months of trying to improve our sex life, I stopped the sex in the middle of one night and told him to stop. My right leg was cramping and all I could think about was the pain in my leg! It was killing my motivation and focus and I was having a hard time maintaining a solid erection. She admitted that the fact that I wasn’t completely hard was also making her think that I wasn’t into her and that that was all she could think about.

My wife knows that I love her and I know that she loves me. We were in better shape and rediscovering our sexual attraction to each other, but that wasn’t the problem. I told him that I think we need to try more positions until we find one that works for both of us. We must have read ten different kama sutra books before giving up. These positions were difficult! I wasn’t a beginner porn pro and neither was she. How can they orgasm when it feels like you’re working out, not having sex?

Finally one day I was searching the internet for sexual exercise and came across this poorly designed website called ExerSutra. I thought, you know what, I’m going to give this a try. The website talked about combining exercise, stretching and balance in your sexual positions. This made sense to me because even though we ran every day in the gym and built more stamina, we still cramped and having sex was uncomfortable and couldn’t stay in the same position for more than two minutes without having to change.

ExerSutra was a cheap guide that combined exercise methods to build stamina for advanced sexual positions with stretching techniques to keep you from cramping. I have to say that I was blown away and my eyes opened! I was so excited that I called work sick the next day just to read this guide. I was practicing stretching all day and when my wife got home I attacked her with my new knowledge. I threw her on the bed and went to the city. I couldn’t believe how long it was going on. No cramps. No balance issues. She loved it too, just lying there receiving pleasure. For the first time in 8 months we shared a mutual orgasm.

He asked me where that came from and I showed him the ExerSutra. We immediately changed our exercise routines to include more strength training that targets the muscle groups most commonly used during intercourse. We stretch before and after exercising and also before and after sex! The night a reverse cowgirl was pulled off and we were in one position for 18 straight minutes was the night I lay in bed with the biggest smile on my face. I was a man