Ladies, don’t rush into a man’s heart. Men’s hearts are sometimes a very cold place to be and you could freeze to death or starve from lack of affection, even if you think you’re good and won’t get burned.

It’s sad but unfortunately true. If you’re like most women, you know full well what I’m talking about here. And you know exactly how these things happen and feel.

If you’re going to hang out with someone, make sure it’s for the right reasons. You have to be happy that you are in a relationship for yourself, not because your friends keep cajoling, harassing, and pushing you into thinking you should be in one. Our friends are often a pain in the ass when they keep shoving their award-winning boyfriends in the face every time you go with them to lunch or a party together.

Sometimes we are stressed and not in the right frame of mind to be in a relationship, and if we get together with a fool, everyone will laugh at you. So make sure you know 100 percent that the man you have is clean, legitimate, and worthy of his long-term love and dedication.

Besides, manipulating a man into committing won’t get you very far. It might get you out the door, but it will only get you out immediately the moment it detects that you used hidden cheats to use it. For a man to commit he has to commit to himself. In other words, it has to be his own idea. And if you don’t know how to stop worrying about whether or not you’re going to get engaged and get married, you need a reality check to see if you want to be in control of your life.

While it’s hard to relax when you feel like you’re getting older every day, it’s often better than being in a relationship that’s driving you crazy. My advice to you would be to let him know how much you mean to him and then let him decide. Announce your desire to him from time to time, but be able to say it in a way that lets him know he’s not desperate.

Sometimes what people really need is time to think about their situation. She may have had doubts about you, but the time spent away made her realize how much she wants to be with you forever.

Let me explain: The goal is not to try to assume anything about your relationship. Relax and let yourself go. State what you want and watch your man carefully, allowing for a natural progression. Let your relationship mature at its own pace. Allow her husband-to-be to take the initiative and decide in his own time that he is so in love with you that he wants to marry you.

I know it’s very frustrating, but instead of pulling your hair out while yelling and scrunching your face beyond recognition, you should focus on pleasing your man and making sure he’s completely in love with you. Because that’s a lot easier than trying to get married in the next sixty seconds.