I was reading this story from a 28 year old Reddit user about how she almost cheated on her husband and it made me think that this situation is more common than we think. Her story is simple. She has been married for almost 4 years, has been dating for 6 years, has children and leads a perfect life. But one night she went out with her friends to have a couple of drinks and there she met a boy who was attractive to her. One thing led to another and she almost went home with him.

“So last night I was out with my friends at a local bar, nothing too special. We’re drinking, catching up, having a good time when a group of handsome young men walk up to us and start a conversation. It was fun, a little flirty, but definitely cheerful and harmless.Anyway, it was getting late around 11pm so I decided to go out and take a cab home (most of my friends were single so they decided to stay a bit longer). They walked me out. I went out and we talked a bit outside, and he suggested I go home with him. I don’t know what happened to me, but at the time all I could think about was how attractive he was. It’s like I ignored him. completely my husband and daughter when I was around him. I wasn’t too drunk, he definitely knew what was going on. I started to follow him to his car and was about to get in but then reality hit me again and I felt so bad for what I did He insisted that I go with him, but I quickly apologized and then called a taxi.”

The thing about cheating is that it can happen to anyone who absolutely loves their partner. Why? Because sometimes our mind tricks us into thinking that the other person is better than what we have at home, even though this is not true. And sometimes it’s not us who have the idea, but the other person. Sometimes cheating occurs when a person believes in friendship without limits and learns the hard way that things are not as easy as they think.

But cheating is not easy for anyone. Neither in the cheater nor in the cheated person. Most of the time, cheaters act foolishly and end up guilt tripping. Some may say that it is too late, but not always.

But there are also times when people almost cheat. What does that mean? It means that a person can take a step towards deception and then reconsider her decision. A step towards cheating does not mean a kiss, because that is already cheating. A step toward cheating may mean accepting a guy’s invitation to come over to her house or saying yes to a woman when she proposes sex. Regardless of the fact that you have changed your mind and suddenly realized that you actually have a lovely family back home, almost cheating is dangerous. Almost cheating can easily turn into actual cheating and ruin your relationship. And as you can see from the article, almost cheating can also screw you up. Taking a step towards cheating is hard for anyone who is in love with their partner, because they don’t see what pushed them to almost cheat. Everything is fine at home, so why would you cheat? Just the thought of cheating used to make you cringe and question the loyalty of the people who did this.

As stated earlier, our mind tricks us sometimes into thinking that the other person is better than our actual love partner. The most important thing you can do is back off immediately, as soon as you realize what you were about to do, and make sure you’re never tempted to do it again.

What can we learn from history?

There are 3 most important things to learn from this story:

  • Almost cheating is a very dangerous thing. – so when you’re out with some friends and enjoying your time together, never be alone with a stranger, especially if you have alcohol in your system.

  • take full responsibility – If you can not live with the thought of what you did, confess it to your partner. If you don’t think it’s that important, don’t do it. It’s your life, your choices. Just consider how this will affect your partner and your family.

  • never do it again – After realizing that you almost cheated, stay away from any other attempts, because one of them will turn into an act.

Cheating will ruin your family, so if you love yourself and your family, you will never cheat on your loved one.