Sex without love would not satisfy you for more than 15 minutes and love without sex would not satisfy you at all. So how do you find both in the same man? That was the question I left you in a previous article.

A friend of mine is a life insurance broker. He always says that there is only one rule to survive in sales and that is to see people, see people and see people. It’s a numbers game. Of all the people you will see, only 2-10% will buy from you, so the more you see, the better your sales will be. Meeting people is exactly the same; The more people you meet, the better your chances of meeting the right person. Fortunately, there are some possibilities to meet new people.

Older guys (read: even older than me) tell us they didn’t have gay dating clubs, bars, or services, so they had to hone their gay radar and flirting skills. The fact is, those skills are still as valuable today as they were years ago. Another important skill is taking one step at a time. Two types of guys never end up with a perfect match; those that fly in a second and those that never leave the starting block. The guys who fly away propose marriage even before they meet the other guy, and those on the starting blocks only watch night after night.

If you are a flyer, you need to relax. Look for friends rather than potential partners. Nothing is more discouraging than a guy who beats you up after having tasted everyone else on his way to your table. Friendly people have a few good friends, a lot of acquaintances, and two or three potential people they might be interested in. Guys who are trying to get into serious relationships don’t have friends, one or two acquaintances, and the entire city as potential people they are interested in. The important thing you should learn from this is that you start by meeting a lot of people, you will find some very good friends among them, and over time, you will meet someone who really interests you. Flyers always run the risk of having their hearts broken on a weekly basis. You can never keep up with who’s in love – it changes every time you see them, and every month or two they try again. That’s when you decide to completely ignore them.

The guys who never take off are almost in the same position. They see a possibility every night, but are too scared to do anything about it. They look a little weird if they stand in a corner ogling everyone, so you ignore them too. They have a few acquaintances who become friends because they usually end up in a group of seekers, waiting for something that never happens. If you’re in such a group, get out there and start building your self-esteem. If you don’t think you are good enough as a partner, no one else will believe in you either.

With that in mind, go back to the gay clubs, gay bars, dating sites, and the gay section of your local bookstore; Start by making friends, being a good friend, and enjoying friendship for its own rewards. Stay out of the friend zone, that’s the corner-eye-gazing group. You’ll do fine.