Finding your true soulmate is something that many people hope to do. We all long for that special person in our lives to make everything wonderful. We want to live the life of a fairy tale and find our own Prince or Princess Charming. We know that somehow that would make our lives complete.

Finding that true love, someone we want to be with all our lives, can be a difficult task. It seems that we find more frogs than princes in that eternal search for true love. Perhaps there are some things that we have overlooked, exaggerated or misunderstood.

Think for a minute. What qualities do you think the love of your life, that perfect soul mate, would have? Would they love you unconditionally, put you on a pedestal, wipe away all your tears, make you happy, make you feel safe, and give you satisfaction? Oh yeah, that would be sweet and very nice indeed.

But let me ask you, what qualities would the soul mate you seek right now find in you? Have you done an honest critique of your strengths and weaknesses lately? Maybe you should, because there is a Universal Law that says “like attracts like”.

“Oh, you mean I have to be operating at my highest and best level to attract the perfect lover and partner to me?” “You mean I have to think about what qualities I have to offer someone else too?”

Oh yeah, that’s the key.

Now, I know that many of you have some very beautiful qualities, and you are kind, loving, caring, and generous, and yet every important person is missing from your life. And I know life doesn’t always seem fair. So you ask yourself, “What can I do to change my situation?”

Here is a list of things you can do:

  • Make a list of the qualities you want in a partner.
  • omitted yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 about those qualities. Be honest. Begin each day to cultivate and expand those qualities. in your own life. Remember, “Like attracts like.” Perhaps that requires changes in attitude, expectations, or limited thinking.
  • Forgive yourself and anyone else who has ever hurt or let you down. Make a list of people or situations that prevent you from loving the most. Say a prayer and ask them to help you let go of the pain. Forgiveness plays a very important role in allowing love to enter your life.
  • Surround yourself with beautiful things. That doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot of money to do this. Pick some pretty flowers and put them in a beautiful vase. Use your favorite colors in your environment. Take the opportunity and paint a wall in your favorite color, or add some beautiful cushions in a silky or velvety fabric. Make your environment one you like to be in, one that uplifts you, one that heals your heart.
  • To create. If you like to paint, paint! If you like to create things with clay, design things, sew or garden, then go for it. If you are a musician and you love to play music, then take the time to do it. Even if you only love listening to or dancing to certain types of music, then you need to find space within your schedule to do the things you love. If you have a hobby that you are passionate about such as golf, surfing, hiking, etc. You must, you must, you must give yourself time to pursue it.
  • Give yourself beautiful experiences. Find some time each day to spend in nature. Sit under a tree and get some fresh air. Go to your favorite park, or to the top of a hill overlooking the ocean or a lake, in search of the beauty of nature. Watch an uplifting movie, listen to positive music, read a self-help book, listen to motivational tapes, pray, meditate, do something nice for someone else.

You see, these kinds of activities heal the heart. If you have a broken heart, it’s hard to attract that perfect soulmate into your life. Universal Law states that “Like attracts like.” Perhaps you have noticed that you have only attracted other hurt people into your life. Since they were seeking to meet their needs through you, and you were seeking to meet your needs through them, then no one got what they needed because each partner had an inner void. Who wants to be with someone who is needed?

The answer is to start finding ways to fill that void in your own life. By healing your heart and filling your life with beauty, joy, nature, music and all the things you love, you become whole again. And you no longer need to have a partner in your life just to “complete” you. Relationships that start like this often lead to eventual resentment.

As you become whole again, people will begin to be drawn into your life in greater numbers. You are no longer needed. You are now overflowing with love energy and become very magnetic. Magnetic people naturally attract other people.

While you are out in the world filling yourself with the things you love, you will begin to meet new people who are also living their lives to the fullest and who are not looking for someone to give them what they need.

As you pursue your favorite hobbies and activities and love life and live it to the fullest, your chances of finding your soulmate increase.

So it really depends on you. You truly have the power to create real love in your life and in doing so change your personal energy field from a state of need to a state of magnetic being.

It is only by loving yourself and living your life to the fullest that you will find true happiness and perhaps true love.