Everybody’s painting their own masterpiece

What other people think of you doesn’t have to determine who you are because your sense of identity shouldn’t be affected by their opinion of you. From an impressionable age, we consider the opinions of others because we want to be accepted and fit in. But as we mature and develop self-esteem, it shouldn’t matter what others think of us. Let me be clear that it is important that our peers accept us, but we should not put our self-esteem in their hands. Self-acceptance helps connect us to our core self and gives us feedback on who we are as individuals. But it is not necessary that it dictate our self-esteem because who we are is much more important than the opinions of others.

What are your impressions? Do you agree, what others think of you does not determine your reality, unless you allow it? Unfortunately, many people are influenced by the opinions of those closest to them, such as family, friends, and co-workers. In particular, the family has the greatest influence on our lives and can undermine our self-esteem. I know people from diverse cultures where parents play an important role in deciding their children’s careers. While his intentions are honorable, it is disgraceful to the family name if the boy does not pursue a noble profession such as a doctor or lawyer. Is this something you can relate to in your family or culture? If so, how did you deal with it and how did it affect your self-esteem?

Nowadays, everyone has an opinion about how others should live their lives, but rarely do these people examine their own lives. In my work as a speaker and coach, I have yet to meet someone who has all their affairs in order. I mean in the best way, to the extent that our life is a work in progress and we may never reach our full potential. That is why we should not judge others because each one is painting his own masterpiece to the best of his ability. During my early adulthood, I worried about the opinions of others, which affected my self-esteem and self-confidence. Who they thought I should be wasn’t something I could live up to, and it hurt me to try to be that person.

Eventually, these relationships dissolved because I was unwilling to minimize my self-esteem to appease them. I lived by my core values, even if it meant making my own mistakes. It was important to find my way, rather than live up to someone else’s opinion of me. Unfortunately, not many people know how they should live their lives. They may claim to know what is best for you, but mostly it is an impression of what is good for you.. We must walk our own path as this is how we learn and grow as individuals. And yes, it’s hard to see a loved one make unnecessary mistakes, but they may be necessary for their personal evolution.

We discover our true potential in our darkest moments.

Our task is not to eliminate their difficulties, but to empower them with support and encouragement to overcome it. This can be difficult, especially if the individual is addicted to alcohol or experimenting with drugs and we may not want to see them suffer in this way. I don’t claim to have the answers, but I do know that emotional support is the best way to help people through their difficulties. How do you feel about this so far? I’m sure you have many questions and opinions about what you’ve read so far. I encourage you to write your thoughts in a journal and sit with them for a few days, to see what comes to light.

We must not allow other people’s opinions of us to determine who we are because their opinion is not fact. Naturally, our life path will evolve as we mature, and we will experience many ups and downs where it might seem like our life is out of control. But this is part of the journey to discover our authentic selves, buried in the ruins of failure, dead ends, and despair. It’s part of getting lost and experiencing despair throughout our circumstances. I know, because I’ve been there and I know how uncomfortable it is to be a stranger in your own life. However, in the months that followed, I experienced an expansion of consciousness that led to great advances in my life. I experienced new insights into my life during those moments of despair. Sometimes, pain and suffering will force us to evolve, so that life takes us where it needs to be.

We must not resist these moments but lean on our problems with full conviction. Only we determine our sense of self. It may require going in one direction and hitting rock bottom, for us to discover our true potential in those darkest moments. So whether you are experiencing hardships and challenges or guiding loved ones through their troubles, notice where they are leading you. Don’t get caught up in suffering because it is temporary and will eventually fade away as long as you continue with genuine faith. If we believe that the opinions of others determine who we are, we are less likely to live an authentic life. Ultimately, the greatest tragedy is following in the footsteps of someone whose opinion of us matters little.